Dear Princess of God, Jesus thirsts for you and He wants you to “choose life”. He wants you to make the choice that is life over death in each and every one of your choices. He wants you to choose Him, as He is the Life.
In the book of Deuteronomy, the Father says
“See, I have set before you this day life and good, death and evil. If you obey the commandments of the Lord your God which I command you this day, by loving the Lord your God, by walking in his ways, and by keeping his commandments and statutes and his ordinances, then you shall live and multiply and the Lord your God will bless the land which you are entering to take possession of it. But if your heart turns away and you will not hear, but are drawn away to worship other gods and serve them, I declare to you this day, that you shall perish; you shall not live long in the land which you are going over the Jordan to enter and possess. I call heaven and earth to witness against you this day, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse; therefore choose life, that you and your descendants may live, loving the Lord your God, obeying His voice, and clinging to him; for that means life to you and length of days, that you may dwell in the land which the Lord swore to your fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give them.” Deuteronomy 30:15-20
Dear Princess of God, there are three things you must do to choose life.
The first is to love the Lord your God.
Jesus says later on in the gospels that if you love Him you will keep the ten commandments. “If you love Me, you will keep My commandments.” John 14:15. This is the obligation you have towards Jesus. However, love calls for and does even more. Love is giving everything you have to Jesus, as a gift back. Love is doing even what you do not have to do, because you simply want to – you want to give delight to your Lord. Perhaps this means something like going to daily mass each morning. The commandment is that you must go every Sunday, but this is the level of obligation. Out of burning charity and love for Jesus, you should want to receive Him daily. Another example is that you love your neighbor for love of Him. When there is an opportunity for you to be charitable, perhaps there is a volunteer opportunity at your church, and you feel a call on your heart, you respond generously and give of yourself and your time to neighbors in need for love of Jesus.
The second thing you must do to choose life is to walk in his ways.
Jesus was a rabbi, and in Jesus’ own day and time, people, disciples of a rabbi would often walk in his very footsteps in order to imitate the rabbi. This is how you must be with Jesus as well. You must try to learn and walk in His ways as though you were a disciple in the desert following Jesus on long walks.
17The LORD is righteous in all His ways and kind in all His deeds. Psalm 145:17
8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. 9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:8-9
A great book to read to begin walking in Jesus’ ways of compassion, gentleness and kindness, meekness and humility (besides the Bible), is Imitation of Christ by Thomas a Kempis. This book inspired St. Therese of the Child Jesus when she was young and helped her on her path to becoming a great saint and a doctor of the Church.
The third thing you must do to choose life is to keep his commandments and statutes and ordinances.
You should already be doing this if you do the first task, to love the Lord your God. However, it is your responsibility, dear Princess of God, to learn what those commandments and statutes and ordinances are. Often times people fall into sin because they don’t know or didn’t know that something was forbidden or wrong. It is your job, dear Princess of God as a part of choosing life, to learn all you can about God’s law.
2But his delight is in the Law of the LORD, and on His law he meditates day and night. Psalm 1:2
You can do this by choosing to immerse yourself in God’s word regularly, perhaps 15 minutes per day and meditating on what you read throughout the day, speaking and praying to Jesus about how what you read applies to you and your own life.